A Story of Love ❤
...and the journey thereof!
In my journey to finding my life-partner, I had previously hit dead-ends, encountered road blocks, been on lonely roads that led to nowhere and got stuck in traffic more often than I’d like to admit. Sound familiar? That’s the story of so many people across the world.
Love is a journey. Sometimes smooth, sometimes very stressful but with persistence, patience and prayer, we can all be guided in our search for the perfect life-partner.
Who is a Perfect Life-Partner?
No one’s perfect. There’s no such thing as a perfect life/love partner. With compromise, submission (on both parts) and commitment, anyone can be molded to fit our narratives of a perfect partner. Question is; what’s your definition(s) of ‘perfect’? If we consider that there’s an element of imperfection in every perfect life-partner, then we inadvertently accept their flaws and shortcomings thereby eliminating every misconception of perfection we may have had due to fairy tale stories and false narratives we come across everyday in society and on social media. Also, we subconsciously accept that no “perfect relationship” is perfect - especially ours. Which now leads to my next question;
Who then is a Life-Partner?
Someone reading this might say: “oh, that’s simple; my (future) husband or wife”. And while this is accurate, the true definition of a life-partner varies from individual to individual. Couples who go through divorce may never have foreseen such happenings happening. People who remarry due to one circumstance or the other may disagree (strongly). So who then is a life-partner?
A life-partner is someone you choose (and who chooses you) to spend the rest of your lives with together. They’re someone you choose to wake up to each and every morning for the rest of your lives irrespective of the differences, disagreements and intense-conversations that most certainly will arise every now and again. A life-partner is someone you choose to love and who chooses to love you regardless of your flaws and weird habits. A life-partner is someone you desire to build a future and a family with, and vow to be with for better and/or for worse.
Not all life-partners end up being husbands or wives. Some people prefer to leave marriage out of the equation. Like I said; it differs from individual to individual. Regardless of what a life-partner means to you, how do you choose one?
Choosing your Life-Partner?
Some people don’t choose, they get chosen for. In some tribes and religions around the world, families do the choosing for the man and/or for the woman. It’s crazy to think that in the 21st century, such things still exist. Truth is, a lot of things still exist because humans still exist. Nevertheless, here are some tips on choosing wisely:
Define what you want in a life-partner. Understanding your “turn-on’s” and “turn-offs” will help you navigate through these treacherous waters. Understanding your deal makers and breakers in your ideal love/life partner helps set-up guidelines/templates to aide in your recruitment/decision making.
Build on your character and develop yourself. If you met the “perfect” partner and you both fell deeply in-love with each other, would you marry you if you were to be in the other person’s shoes? Would you? Think about this one for a bit...
Be compassionate and understanding. By now, you must have realized that choosing a life-partner isn’t really about the person you plan on choosing, but on you - the chooser. You have to come correct to this happily-ever-after table before you can bring someone else along on this never-ending journey with you. Your response and reactions to situations matter a great deal and will play a major role in your relationship’s love walk.
What do you really want in life? Understanding your purpose in life is very key in guiding your decisions for a life-partner. Most often, you will find your life-partner on your path towards fulfilling your destiny. Defining your visions and goals for your life will help shape your entire perspective of the kind of person/character you want to partner with on your journey through life. Remember, they’re not called “life-partner” for nothing. That’s a long-term agreement that can be contracted through marriage and (most ideally) should only be broken by death. Hence the clause; “till death do us part”.
Love isn’t rocket science. Love is an expression of our heart’s deepest desires towards someone else other than ourselves.
Love is a beautiful catalyst which stirs up the magic in our lives. Love is peace and the expression of all the joys that comes with it. True love is GOD and GOD is the purest of them all; therefore, if true love (GOD) isn’t the center and core of your life, and (proposed) life-partner, then that foundation might be shaky and subject to the storms of life. Are there people who don’t believe in the existence of GOD who have peaceful, loving and beautiful journeys with their life-partners, yes there are! Are there also people who believe so much in GOD but end up in messy relationships, marriages and failed attempts at love in life, certainly yes. Regardless, the truth remains the same; that in order to live a life full of purpose, Christ should be the core and center of your life.
Agree or disagree? Let me know in the comments. I love you all so much 💖
- With Love from, Love.